Since I began visiting Pinoy Literotica, and especially when I began contributing stories, I have learned that beyond the words that anyone can read, are real people. People who care as evidenced by friendships born out of mutual respect for each other, and in times of need, are ready to listen and to give advice. People who are assholes as evidenced by those who leave stupid comments, emboldened by anonymity. People who are simply insensitive as evidenced by those who meant well, but used the wrong words to say their piece, forgetting that many people who write here are writing about their innermost feelings and fantasies.
I have read a post by a member who feels hurt because she wanted someone she couldn’t have, a dilemma shared by many others.
I am abroad for a few days on a business trip but I couldn’t resist. I was going to write a comment, however, I elected to write more and make this post. Before I continue, let me just write up front that with this post, either you like it or not, is not meant to disrespect anyone.
To love and to be loved, a person must understand oneself and what is it that the one wants. To make a relationship work, each person must understand each other and what each other wants.
As many members would attest to, relationships, however good, can fail too. Relationships, however perfect and right it seems, fail because of lack of solid foundation. Relationship is all about love and not just sex. Sex is a result of intimacy one feels for each other. In my view, there are only two kinds of sex – with emotional attachment or without.
To get into a relationship, one needs to meet people. People meet people at school, at work, at social activities like parties, even bars, or online through social networks. A relationship starts when each person begins to understand each other, and in time, like each other.
A little earlier, I mentioned that sex is one aspect of a relationship, a result of intimacy. Some relationships are born out of sex before anything else. While some evolve to result in marriage, most fail. Think about it. Having sex, however good, does not speak much of a person’s character. Failure to understand and to accept each other’s faults or shortcomings result in broken hearts.
Here, at Pinoy Literotica, finding a relationship is more complicated than any other means. Here we have a site that is predominantly about carnal desires, hidden desires, fantasies. As writers contribute more posts each day, as more and more members join and participate in comments and having discussions, many members here fall for a person they created in their own minds.
Let me explain. I may be reading a post or comment made by someone, and I behin to wish this person is mine. When that happens, I begin to picture this person more vividly, sometimes unconsciously plugging missing details with my ideal partner. I begin to fall for a person that exist partly because of what I have created. I hope you understand this example I have given.
Having written the above, I think members who become vulnerable to the example I have given are mostly women. While men can actively pursue and have sex without emotional attachment, many women tend to be more emotional about it. Most women needs romance, emotional assurances and security, and often become unknowing preys to men who will say the right things to have sex.
In concluding this post, I would also like to say that not all men are animals, and not all women are vulnerable.
To men, I would like to remind that women needs to be respected. However willing a woman is, always take into consideration how a woman emotionally feels about you and exercise good judgement lest someone gets hurt.
To women, either you consent to having sex because you really want it, or out of love, regardless, you need to make sure that your feel respected, you need to feel genuine respect, before you engage in sex. If it is not about sex, then you need to think if the person you want is a person that you could say you know, or simply a product of your imagination, or a combination of both.
Finally, the post I made, while addressed to specific genders, may in some rare cases, be the other way around. At any rate, please guard your hearts.
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